Moscow - Trip 2 - Day 14, Part 1
Friday, February 1, 2008
Today is what everyone on the adoption forums & blogs refers to as "Gotcha Day!" And I can’t recall a day that I’ve begun with so much anticipation but also so much anxiety.
Don’t get me wrong, we’re eager to begin our new life with Liam. We’re so excited about everything well be able to give him — we’ve had more than 2 years to dream about all of the firsts that he will experience with us: first birthday cake; first trip to the park; first day at the beach. I’m sure these are the kinds of dreams that all parents-to-be have. And we’ve done everything we can think of to prepare ourselves & our home for his arrival.
But at the same time, we laid awake last night worrying about how we’re plucking our poor little guy out of the only stable, caring environment he’s had for more than half of his short little life. Everything that’s comfortable, familiar, & safe for him will be snatched away in the course of just a few minutes today. Thinking about how disorienting living in Moscow for a couple of weeks has been for us, we can only begin to grasp how terribly disorienting the coming weeks will be for Liam: Strange new people; unknown new surroundings; words that make no sense; odd new foods.
Without a doubt, Liam was meant to be with us and this is a wonderful beginning to a better life for all of us, but at the same time, we’re really wracked with guilt about the stress & confusion that we’re about to put him thru on the way to that new, better life.
Anyway, here we go! Look for "Gotcha Day" photos in a few short hours...
Don’t get me wrong, we’re eager to begin our new life with Liam. We’re so excited about everything well be able to give him — we’ve had more than 2 years to dream about all of the firsts that he will experience with us: first birthday cake; first trip to the park; first day at the beach. I’m sure these are the kinds of dreams that all parents-to-be have. And we’ve done everything we can think of to prepare ourselves & our home for his arrival.
But at the same time, we laid awake last night worrying about how we’re plucking our poor little guy out of the only stable, caring environment he’s had for more than half of his short little life. Everything that’s comfortable, familiar, & safe for him will be snatched away in the course of just a few minutes today. Thinking about how disorienting living in Moscow for a couple of weeks has been for us, we can only begin to grasp how terribly disorienting the coming weeks will be for Liam: Strange new people; unknown new surroundings; words that make no sense; odd new foods.
Without a doubt, Liam was meant to be with us and this is a wonderful beginning to a better life for all of us, but at the same time, we’re really wracked with guilt about the stress & confusion that we’re about to put him thru on the way to that new, better life.
Anyway, here we go! Look for "Gotcha Day" photos in a few short hours...
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posted by Dede at 7:45 AM




19 Comments:
I can understand how you might feel that way. Call it the labor and delivery to your life as a family of 3. :o)
Can't wait to see his sweet little face!! Best of luck this morning!
Happy Gotcha Day!! I'm sure everything will go smoothly and Liam will be all yours in a few short hours!! We can't wait to see pics of the new family!! And Liam will be just fine once he's basking in all the love you guys have to offer him!! Congrats!!
I just got chills as I read your blog! Today is so exciting for you all, but like you said, I often think about how our childrens' worlds will change so much so quickly. In the end, you are giving him the world, and he is giving you the world. I know you will both be so blessed by each other! I hope today is wonderful for all of you!! :)
Dede and Rob,
We have got you know you guys a little while here in Moscow, and you are more than prepared to give a great life to Liam! I am sure that just by having these unselfish thoughts about how this day will be for him, you will do your best to make it as smooth as possible for him! Have a wonderful Gotcha Day!
Sinziana and Mark
Totally understandable. What a blessing, though. Congrats again and Happy Gotcha Day!
Can't wait to see those pics :)
This post shows what wonderful parents you already are, because you're so concerned about your son's feelings and well-being. You are sensitive to how this transition will affect him, and you are trying to see it from his point of view, and that is very loving. Your love will see him through this time of adjustment.
Looking forward to seeing the pictures of your son!
Congratulations as today will be reflected upon as such a momemntal day for the rest of your lives!
Maybe you can replace your guilt with knowing your son will never have to wait his turn when he is starving or sit in a dirty diaper until it is time to be changed.
I wish you ease in knowing he will not look back. These babies MOSTLY adjust so much better than you could ever imagine. Just be held and loved, fed & tended to will heal most wounds of the change in enviroment.
He will do wonderfully :) Just remember, you guys have spent much longer in your routine than he has in his. Children adapt much more easily to new situations than we adults do. He already feels how much you guys love him and the changes will be exciting for him. It has always amazed me at what my children are capable of. Children in general are more flexible with their worlds :) As long as they have love, full tummies and most importantly...NAP TIME..they are fine and will thrive beautifully ;) You guys are doing a wonderful thing for Liam :) He will grow up knowing the love of a Mom and Dad and a family.... No baby home, however familiar, can replace that :)
Hooray! I am so happy for you - but I well remember the anxiety of knowing I was about to inflict such a radical change on my child's life, and he would have no say or understanding of what was going on.
Hang in there - these first few weeks may be crazy - but they are great!!
HAPPY GOTCHA DAY!! I will remember this day forever!!
God Bless the three of you!!
Brad, Marsha, Sasha & Dimitry
I can't wait to see the photos - bring them on!!!
I too understand your emotions as we've discussed them ourselves. Even though we know our children will experience more love and a better life with us, it is still sad to take them from their current care group and their familiar surroundings. I will pray that God will give you peace as you bring Liam home today.
Congratulations on your Gotcha Day!! I'm so excited for you and know that today will always hold a very, special place in your heart!!
I can't believe we laid awake and thought the same thing. I too was awake last night thinking about Little Liam. But by 3am I had the thought that maybe he might surprise me again by not being affected at all. He has such a happy personalily. all parents face the worry of there little ones hurting for whatever reason. The saying that a parent is only as happy as thier unhappiest child is so true. But somehow the few smiles you get inbetween are so worth all the pain. I am thinking of all three of you. Today starts the rest of your life.
I am so happy for you guys and I can't wait to meet Liam in the next few days!!
Can't wait for the pics.
Happy Gotcha day! I absolutely underdstand your feelings and have had the same thoughts. Just think of the wonderful life you will be giving Liam and the wondeful life he will be giving you! I think I might set a world record (or get fired from work) for refreshing your blog today waiting for pics of the little guy! :-)
Dede, Rob.....
I know it must be hard, but just remember what their end goal is, to be part of a loving family that will provide for them and love them unconditionally. He is young and will adjust faster than if he were older, but I understand your worries. Just pray and it will all work out! We're excited for you all!
Oh boy, I can't imagine your anticipation and excitement. We are so happy for you. Good luck on the trip home and the adjustments you will all face.
M.
I think your feelings are natural and good to have. You'll be extra sensitive to him knowing what he's going through.
Happy Gotcha Day!
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